Counselling might be beneficial for you if you feel that any of the following points apply to you:
- One or more problems is harming the quality of your life and you don’t know how to solve them
- Something has been troubling you over a period of time and you’re having difficulty finding a solution on your own
- You find it hard to talk to friends or family because they are directly involved in the issues
- Things are getting on top of you, and affecting your well-being, for example, causing depression, anxiety or stress
- Issues from the past are having an impact on your day to day life
- Things that are troubling you are having a negative impact on your relationships or work
- Something has happened in your life which has left you floundering or wondering whether life is worth living
- You are functioning poorly at work, in your family, or in your personal life, for no apparent reason
- Communication between you and your partner are difficult or non-existent
- You are excessively troubled by anxiety (fear) or depression (sadness)
- You find it hard to reach out to people around you and develop satisfying relationships
- You repeatedly behave in ways you regret
- You feel willing to talk over your troubles in private with a supportive therapist – even though you may also feel unsure or anxious about the thought of doing so
If one or more of the following apply, you might not need therapy, or it might not be helpful to you:
- You are considering going into therapy only because someone else thinks you need it
- You feel fine about your way of life and state of mind, even though others may disapprove
- You feel able to solve your own problems without help
- You are currently working with another therapist or practitioner to look at a different area of your life
- You hate the idea of talking your problems over with a therapist
What Counselling is Not
- Counselling is not a time-filling service for those people who are perceived as being ‘crazy’ or ‘difficult’ because they are experiencing problems in coping with personal and emotional issues.
- Counselling is not the magic answer to life’s problems.
- It is not a supportive emotional crutch that enables you to carry on with life without a care in the world.
- Counselling is not an advice-giving service.